Having Tough Conversations

Some topics are certainly quite sensitive to discuss
with your significant other. Such conversations are assumed as they are likely
to get heated. Perhaps initiating a tough medical conversation is something you
dread. You fear your significant other might not take it very well and it could
end up becoming a nasty argument. Well, in one way or another, it is inevitable
to have tough medical conversations with your significant other. For example, how
do you open up about a recent cancer diagnosis? Here are 5 tips on how to have tough
medical conversations with your significant other:

  1. First understand the issue at hand

If you are discussing with your significant other
about a medical condition they are suffering from, first acquire adequate
knowledge about the condition. For instance, you can attend a medical appointment
with your partner to get more insights. It will help to know what to discuss
when having the medical conversation later on.

  1. Start the conversation on a positive note

Demonstrate appreciation for your significant other’s
willingness to discuss the medical conversation. For example, say, “I
appreciate you agreeing to talk about your recent cancer diagnosis with me. The
issue has been on mind all through. I believe together we can get a solution to
it and cope accordingly.”

  1. Discuss about how your significant other feels

It helps to start a tough medical conversation by inquiring
about how your partner feels. Your partner might be dealing with severe
depression, diabetes, cancer or a chronic ailment. Seek to
know how your partner is coping. In the process, offer words of encouragement
as a show of support. It will make your significant other feel better.


  1. Appropriate timing is crucial


Try not to bring up tough medical conversations at
the wrong time. Refrain from engaging your partner in such a conversation when
they are in a hurry. It is inappropriate to bring up such a topic when your
partner has just arrived home from work. Essentially, talk when the two of you
are in a position to productively focus on the issue at hand. Although you may
have informed your significant other about the topic in advance, do not
abruptly bring it up. First inquire from him or her if the timing is right to
talk. If need be, find another time when both of you are ready to talk. Confirm if your significant other is in a
stable emotional state as well. It is more beneficial and productive to talk to
a person who is in a rather stable emotional state.

  1. Practice flexibility

As you plan on discussing a sensitive medical issue
with your partner, be flexible. First seek to understand what your partner
needs. In most cases, your significant other might find it challenging to
openly discuss their health issue(s) with you. This is expected as nobody loves
the feeling of being vulnerable or helpless more so in a situation that
directly affects them. Do not ask too many questions that make your significant
other uncomfortable. If at some point, your partner finds it difficult to talk,
do not pressure him/her.


In essence, having tough medical conversations with your significant other should be anchored on
open and genuine dialogue and deep understanding of the issue in question.


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